Moderating hopes

People generally tend to expect help from others more than they can provide themselves with.

When we aim at attaining something, and that other people can make us get what we want, we quite inconsciously hang a big part of our hope on them, so much that we tend to say that we've been desillusioned or let down by people we were expecting a lot from when one of them doesn't provide the help needed.

So many times we blame others for being behind not our getting what we want or for not having helped it. But the real blame should be put on ourselves, on our uncapacity to accept failures or refusals. What does it mean to be denied something by someone, (that's in case we assume it to be a right). Or what does it make to find out about someone's other side only because that person didn't meet our expectations somewhere along the road?

I don't know how this is being happening to me, but I'm feeling something of it right now. Maybe I should make myself stronger in some way, in more accepting reactions and responses, in building hopes only on what is not likely to let me down someday, and especially confiding in myself a little more before trusting anyone else.